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You are very welcome. I'm glad you are going to be moving soon.

If you need to be under anesthesia or on a morphine pump, if at all possible I suggest having someone you trust be physically nearby the whole time. Bare minimum, you'll know what you did said. With luck that may keep your lizard brain a bit calmer and minimize other reactions.

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The height of privilege, the tip of the "oppression Olympics pyramid" is the hospital chose to forgo a very expensive procedure, waste all those professionals' time, so possibly one nurse's feelings don't get hurt.

Hospitals are notorious for acting in vengeful ways towards patients in the best of circumstances

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Far worse than that.

**Willingness to kill this woman in order to have a social victory**.

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YES. Thank you for SAYING that. Looks like now she *IS* going to die, and I'll bet that when she does (I hope I'm wrong) the "anti-TERF" trolls will be gleefully celebrating. Hard to see -- from here -- how this is not vicious woman-hating (but then, I have a long history of being slammed as "not getting it" for not going along with what the crowd is doing). This whole thing is frightening. THANK YOU BOTH FOR PUBLICIZING IT -- "no disinfectant like sunlight."

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That's impressively evil.

So, what does "TRA" stand for? "Trans Radical Asshole"?

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"Trans Rights Activists," usually, though yours is pretty accurate as far as I'm concerned.

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Ugh. I'm not on Twitter anymore either so I hadn't heard about this case yet. It's un-fucking-believable that at this point in the UK a real woman's very real, material healthcare needs were sidelined because she's missing a few inches. 😑

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Twitter is full of absolute glee that the woman is likely to die, and attempts to cast doubt on her story, for example by pointing out that she spoke to a male journalist. Because *that* is the same thing, right? For people who claim to be the most traumatized and oppressed ever, they have remarkably little understanding of trauma reactions. Who am I kidding? They're in charge *and they know it*. The penalty for not being able to pretend to believe in their religion, under extreme duress even, is potentially death--and they're cheering. Hard to imagine a clearer indication that they are the ruling class, now.

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But they've been misgendered on occasion! They know what *real* trauma is...

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I empathise with your sense of despair - but most of those ghoulish chucklefucks are the mere pawns of the true ruling class - which I suppose makes it worse in a way.

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Thank you so much for this. I also have PTSD from sexual assault and I request female dentists because of it. Sounds crazy right? Yet I have been triggered having a root canal done. Think about it. You're laying on your back in a chair, man over you, pain, bright light, can't move.... Yikes. Next thing I know I can't breathe, I'm in the corner and vomiting. The dentist called in staff he was frightened and didn't know what I would do. It was embarrassing as all hell.

I can't imagine being told I was a transphobe for not wanting to experience something like that again.

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I don't blame you a bit for requesting female dentists. A particular type of massage goes farther in helping my shoulder pain than anything else ever has, and there's an openly/flamboyantly gay man who does it *very* well local to me, which presented enough of a psychological buffer that it wasn't triggering. (He's also excruciatingly careful about boundaries, allowing lots of time and space to change clothing and respecting the extent to which I cover myself, etc.). But he requires masks, so I canceled. I told him why. He's gentle and his manner is very non-threatening, but my lying down partially dressed and having restricted breathing in the presence of a man, gay or not, is just too much. Not going to happen.

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I am so glad you are that aware of yourself. Not everybody is. (That you are -- by the way -- and because you are conscious can articulate all of this, reinforces for me what I've said before about you: One of the sanest bunnies going.)

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I think that hospital fits my definition of being evil. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe they’re just incredibly stupid or huge cowards.

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Not to cast myself as the arbiter or anything, but "evil" was definitely one of the adjectives that came to *my* mind on reading this story.

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It's common enough in any industry that is supposed to be there to serve the vulnerable; and the medical industry, at its worst, seems to be somewhere towards the top of them. However, others -- such as the commercial religion industry; and the industry that is supposed to provide food (via food-banks) to people who are at the very least food-insecure; and the Affordable Housing industry -- also provide vast opportunities for violating those they are, at least on paper, expected to serve. I don't know what to do about this except continue to raise awareness -- to the extent that I'm able. There is SO much to be done. Thanks for posting, all.

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MY guess: (1) More afraid of getting sued, than of taking someone's life by actions that fit the definition IMHO of "depraved indifference"; and (2) MUCH more invested in being "sensitive to" the perceived "needs" of every individual in the group that breathes together and has bonded with each other, than in taking care of the ACTUAL REAL NEEDS of an actual human being in danger of dying.

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